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Everyone says it’s important to have a safety network—a group of people you can rely on in difficult times. I wish I had realized that earlier. Life is always a double-edged sword, isn’t it?

Laura and I built the perfect life together. During COVID, our bond became even stronger. We were a team, doing everything together. Love was real, the world was in our hands, and we didn’t need anyone else to be happy.

It was beautiful. It was perfect.

Until she was gone.

I quickly realized that the perfect life we built together wasn’t so perfect when you find yourself alone. Don’t get me wrong—I have friends and family. But I didn’t have close friends living nearby, and most of my support network became a virtual one. Some close friends visited, and that helped. But I didn’t have the option to just call someone up for a walk or a coffee. That started weighing on me—until, in true Marco fashion, I signed up for an IRONMAN. Funny enough, training for an event like that is a lot easier when you have no social life whatsoever.

What Can You Do If You End Up Alone?

That depends on where you live. I live in a small mountain village at 1000m altitude, with 600 inhabitants—many of whom are conservative and close-minded. Most don’t like foreigners and proudly support the SVP, Switzerland’s right-wing party. I am Swiss, but from Ticino—so in their eyes, I’m still a foreigner. Ticino, for many here, isn’t real Switzerland.

But if you live in a city, things might be easier. You have options:

✅ MeetUp & Social Apps – Join activities and events to connect with like-minded people.
✅ Local Clubs & Communities – Sports, book clubs, hiking groups, or whatever interests you.
✅ Volunteer Work – Not only does it help others, but it also creates a strong sense of purpose.
✅ Start a Small Business & Attend Local Markets – A great way to meet people and build connections.
✅ Train for an Event – Whether it’s a marathon, triathlon, or hiking challenge, you’ll find people on a similar journey.

If you’re in the UK, you’re lucky—there are some of the best gardening communities out there. Gardening is scientifically proven to be beneficial for mental health. In fact, UK doctors even prescribe it for patients dealing with depression and other mental illnesses. So why not give it a try?

Speak Up. Ask for Help.

The most important thing is to react in time—to prevent isolation before it becomes overwhelming. If you already have a support circle, use it. Let them know you need them to check in on you. Ask for help, and be proud of the fact that you’re doing so. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. There’s nothing wrong with talking, venting, or crying.

Family Matters—But So Do Boundaries

Family can be a huge part of the grieving process. But just like with friends, you need to communicate. Let them know how you feel, and don’t hesitate to ask for support. At the same time, it’s important to preserve yourself. If someone in your family or a friend is also struggling, don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your own mental health.

Remember what they tell you on airplanes? Put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others. It applies here, too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.

💭 Let me know in the comments, or reach out via email or Instagram. I’d love to hear from you.